I'm currently trying to keep my attitude in check. Now, if you don't know me well, then you're probably guessing this isn't a huge problem. I don't usually fly off at the handle at people. I may roll my eyes. I may get quiet. But more than likely...I'm not being mean. My mother taught me better than that (I think that's a good thing). But when you mess with the people that mean the most to me, I have a hard time keeping my thoughts to myself...
But I'm going to. Because I know that's the right thing to do. I also know we're all adults and so drama is not needed. Although I have learned that the drama in adult life can be way worse than it ever was in high school. Why is that? We should be growing out of this stuff...not still walking in it.
The one thing I've learned (don't worry...I've learned more than one thing in my 32 1/2 years of life) over the last few years is that as adults, we tend to hurt those around us more than we did as kids. I'm sure part of that is the fact that we are adults...and so we think things aren't supposed to hurt as much, we think things like this aren't supposed to happen, our friends list is much shorter so we don't recover as quickly by moving on to new friends...you get the picture. I've also learned the hurt can be a good thing. If we're willing to keep our attitude in check and look at both sides of the picture, it's not always so black and white. There's usually a reason someone is being crappy. That doesn't make it ok but we also can't act like there's not two sides to the story. And when we can step away from the hurt (which I know is HARD), we can see that there's a much bigger plan to all of this mess.
I'm trying to remember that as I know a friend is hurting. And I saw it coming. I think that's the worst part. But I also knew there was nothing you can do. You can warn them. But sometimes that doesn't change anything. They see things differently. But now she hurts. And part of me would like to fix that by a little revenge. Besides, the friend wasn't the only person who got hurt in this whole mess that was created. But I also know that revenge is not ok. It may make me feel good for a little bit but in the end, I end up stooping to that level. I don't want to do that. So I'm trying to be a good friend...just listening. It's just hard...cause I know it hurts. And it affects several of us. And I'm trying to remember that God has a much bigger plan and we just need to be patient.
This whole being an adult thing is definitely for the birds!
But I'm going to. Because I know that's the right thing to do. I also know we're all adults and so drama is not needed. Although I have learned that the drama in adult life can be way worse than it ever was in high school. Why is that? We should be growing out of this stuff...not still walking in it.
The one thing I've learned (don't worry...I've learned more than one thing in my 32 1/2 years of life) over the last few years is that as adults, we tend to hurt those around us more than we did as kids. I'm sure part of that is the fact that we are adults...and so we think things aren't supposed to hurt as much, we think things like this aren't supposed to happen, our friends list is much shorter so we don't recover as quickly by moving on to new friends...you get the picture. I've also learned the hurt can be a good thing. If we're willing to keep our attitude in check and look at both sides of the picture, it's not always so black and white. There's usually a reason someone is being crappy. That doesn't make it ok but we also can't act like there's not two sides to the story. And when we can step away from the hurt (which I know is HARD), we can see that there's a much bigger plan to all of this mess.
I'm trying to remember that as I know a friend is hurting. And I saw it coming. I think that's the worst part. But I also knew there was nothing you can do. You can warn them. But sometimes that doesn't change anything. They see things differently. But now she hurts. And part of me would like to fix that by a little revenge. Besides, the friend wasn't the only person who got hurt in this whole mess that was created. But I also know that revenge is not ok. It may make me feel good for a little bit but in the end, I end up stooping to that level. I don't want to do that. So I'm trying to be a good friend...just listening. It's just hard...cause I know it hurts. And it affects several of us. And I'm trying to remember that God has a much bigger plan and we just need to be patient.
This whole being an adult thing is definitely for the birds!
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